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On the TODAY Show this morning the expert said that couples "Should Go To Bed Mad." Is this really what you should do? Asked of Dr. Charles D. Schmitz by Randi Naughton and John Pertzborn on FOX News KTVI Channel 2 St. Louis May 13, 2008

The advice given on the TODAY show that couples "should go to bed mad" is asolutely perposterous. It is not a "myth" that you should never go to bed mad. It is what we know to be true from 25 years of research with over 500 couples happily and successfully married couples. Anyone who would suggest that you should go to bed mad is only trying to stir controversy and it is simply irresponsible. The tragedy is that this terrible advice is getting out there to all those young couples when they are just beginning to learn how to get it right the first time around.

During our interviews with long time successful couples, we always ask, "What are the three most important pieces of advice you can give to newly married couples?" Their number one answers are universally the same, "Never go to bed mad." If you go to bed without an amicable resolution, tomorrow it is even more difficult to deal with especially if it is a tough issue. So, the proper advice should be:

Even if it takes all night, Never Go To Bed Mad At Each Other!

Love Well!

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